Lookin' Good at 58

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

I Didn't Think I Would Still Be Doing This

The other day I said hello to a waiter friend who still works the twelve hour days at age 62. Another one I know just turned 65 and she wants to work two more years.

Now I know both these people are working cause they need the money. Not necessarily because they enjoy it. They are doing it cause they know nothing else they can do to earn money.

Looking at my situation I am pretty much in the same boat. I am going to wait on tables till my 60's as well. The thing is I never thought when I started out that I was going to be doing this that long. I always thought there was going to be something else. I tried other things along the way but kept coming back to this.

My birthday is coming up soon and it is starting to sink in that this is it. When you are younger you think that something better is out there. Then time passes and you think maybe this is it.

So here is my question to all you waiters or Management over 45 years of age out there. The ones giving up your weekends and holidays working crazy hours.

Are you going to be doing this until your mid 60's? Cause that time is fast approaching. Did you think you would be working that long serving tables when you started out?

12 comments:

The Restaurant Manager said...

I would guess that majority of them would agree with the title of your blog. Looking forward to seeing what they have to say.

purplegirl said...

I'm already eight years past how long I expected to be doing this. I'm 29 -- if I'm still doing this as my only job at 39, I will be exceedingly disappointed in myself. That's a reflection of myself, not a judgement of anyone else's decisions!

Steven Nicolle said...

The Restaurant Manager....I think so as well although many I don't think will fess up to it.

Steven Nicolle said...

Purplegirl...and the early years are the fun years. Keep up the school work.

SkippyMom said...

I can't comment on the question but I would like to add my 2 cents if you don't mind Steven.

Maybe I am from a different era or perhaps it is the way the "upper" class looks down on a server/waiter [hate] but I have never seen a problem in being employed, whatever the job, and being good at it. One should take pride in their accomplishments and shouldn't think the ought not to be doing something just because it isn't to be done due to an age limitation.

If you can do it, are good at it, enjoy it [for the most part ;)] then why consider another line of work.

Not everyone was put here to be an astronaut or an artist or an accountant - some of us are here to be pool guys [yay!] doctors, receptionists and yes, waiters.

It is what we do with our time outside of work that will leave the biggest impact. Our jobs only serve to enhance our lives when we aren't there.

Steven Nicolle said...

SkippyMom...truer words have never been spoken. I think waiters understand what you just said. The difficulty is not with the waiter but the people we serve sometimes that makes one feel that maybe there might have been a better choice early on. Certainly our legacy is not what we do for a living but what impact we have on those close to us. Outstanding comment SkippyMom!

Joe said...

Dude, I enjoy your internet column.Unless they start selling Powerball in this state and I win it, I expect to have to keep doing this for the rest of my life. If I can keep feeling pretty good, I guess it's ok. I'm not quite in the demographic you asked about, but close enough. Good luck to you.

Steven Nicolle said...

Joe...that is the main thing. Nothing wrong with doing it just the physical aspect we need to keep up.Thanks Joe for the comment and good luck to us both!

julie said...

As long as I want to keep "living the dream" (living in a beautiful area that is a great place to raise kids), there is no better way to make money in a resort town. But it is hard to be away from my kids, miss fun Saturday nights with other families, etc. I have been out of working in the field I was trained in and really enjoyed and just now am coming to terms with probably not going back to that unless we move

Steven Nicolle said...

Julie...you know working in a resort where you can do the outdoors stuff with your family is idyllic. Sounds like a great spot and one thing I notice working in a resort is that everyone is happy cause they are on holiday.That is a good thing to begin with.

Mary Beth said...

Wow, I never thought I would still be waiting on tables at my age. (50) but I am glad I had the skill to fall back on. I got laid off from my corporate job 3 years ago and even when I was employed in that corporate world, I still would pick up a catering shift or a wait shift at many of my chef friend's restaurants. I will say that I can run circles around some of the Lazy bussers and younger wait staff and I am glad to have money in my pocket till I get my dog daycare business going. And even when it opens up, I will still take a shift or 2 in the restaurant because I get to market my dog daycare to the customers!

Steven Nicolle said...

Mary Beth...this is one thing about the waitering profession. You can always fall back on it for extra cash when you have too. Nice going.